My apparent manipulation of Gabriel
Desiree:
I wanted to make sure our text messages from last night were recorded permanently, so I've attached them herein:
This is how civilized, dignified people teach their children to make their beds. This is Gabriel's bed here at our place. Its these little things that differentiate the cream from the chaff.
Well, you continue to teach him to have an empty unfulfilled life filled with things that don't matter. Good Job. It's where he wants to be. Well done raising a spoiled selfish child. You're concerned with how Gabriel makes his bed but not concerned with getting an 'F'' in math. Sounds about right. The 'F' is every one else's fault, so you just accept all his excuses - it's fitting.
I've discussed the F with him on Friday. I don't blame him for it, considering everything that's been going on in his life the past year. I'm impressed he's been able to keep his grades up. I was disappointed that he first tried to blame everything else before he finally accepted the responsibility but I have hundreds of emails from you doing the same thing so what could I expect after a year of being with you?
Me?
That's exactly what the interviewer said huh? You keep lying to your son and live with yourself at night. I'm done with you. One day maybe he will understand how you have manipulated your own child.
I doubt it though.
How sad that you are the hero he looks up to.
I don't believe I'm spoiling Gabriel by providing him a comfortable home and teaching him to be classy and dignified. Its certainly better than forcing him to live like trash. Providing him material things as rewards for doing well is not spoiling him.
Classy? You have stripper sheets
And spending obscene amount of money on him and getting him everything he wants is not rewarding him. Keep filling his head with bullshit.
Only trashy prostitutes have satin sheets - did you inherit that from your mom?
Okay. That's very thoughtful and insightful. I'm very hurt that you brought my mother into this. I'm going to go cry on my trashy stripper pillow cases now.
I know.
Your such a fool:).
Desiree:
In the [above] communication you accused me, again, of manipulating Gabriel. So, as I received those messages I read them to Gabriel and made sure he understood exactly how I'm manipulating him. I said: Son, if you're happy living with Desiree and you want to stay with her then I'll support that. I think it's a bad idea because of the way of life you'll be exposed to, and the lessons you won't be able to learn. But I'll support it nonetheless. And I'll continue to provide financial support and I'll do my best to try to teach you the life lessons that I think are import for you to learn to prepare you for life on your own.
So, that's me manipulating him? You're very sick in the head, Desiree. You need to get yourself some help. If you'd like I'm more than happy doing a conference call with all of us and I'll say those things to Gabriel, with you and anyone else you'd like to have present to witness it. That's what I've told Gabriel since the very beginning.
And you heard it for yourself in court the other day: Gabriel told the interviewer that he believes I want him to be with me because its what HE wants, and you want him to be with you because its what YOU want. He wants to be with me because I treat him with respect and dignity. Moreso, I ACTUALLY respect him. I've talked to him about that fairy tale of "love" and he knows that I don't believe in it. I've never said I love him and he's never said he loves me. So, you can tell him you love him until the sky falls - it won't matter because he's smart enough to know its just words.
You also said I'm spoiling him. Here's why you're wrong: when I started putting $75 a week into his account I told him I'm not buying him any more video games or other things. I want to see if he can manage his allowance well enough to pay his financial obligations on time and still have enough to get himself the video games and things he wants. I would say that's the opposite of spoiling him. It's teaching him to be responsible with his money. He's responsible for making sure his phone bill gets paid on time. If he blows his money buying you and Sage pizza and can't afford a game he'll have to wait until the next pay. So once again, it seems you're talking shit and being a fool.
Moreover, I think it's your approach to handling finances that's spoiling him. You don't provide him an allowance and make him manage his own money. You're that one that withholds the money from him and buys him things. That way he stays dependent on you and has to beg you for things. THAT's manipulation!
And, regarding the "F" he received in math: I'd like to ask why it is that you never bothered to inform me of it? Wouldn't a responsible parent have done so?
Anyway, I'm really getting very tired of always winning our little debates, but you just spew such stupid drivel and make such stupid arguments.
If you have anything intelligent to contribute then do so but please stop wasting our time with your silly allegations which are just projections of your own faults (like claiming I'm manipulating and spoiling Gabriel).
Fox
P.S. I've spoken with Gabriel about your claims that I took him and hid him from you all the time you were absent. I've shown him the pictures of Christmas 2001 when I brought him to your mother's place. I've pointed out to him that when he and I moved to Phoenix in 2006 I immediately contacted your mother to let her know and she visited with him a few times. I've pointed out to him that he and I continued to live at the Anza address until 2003. And I explained that the reason I did not agree to give you his address when you came to CADC in 2009 was because I believed you would immediately take him from Liz's home and that would be very traumatic for him. I also pointed out to him that you raised those same allegations in court but they were immediately discarded by the court when I pointed out that in that 9 years you never once notified the court - which is all you would have had to do if your claim was actually true. I explained that all you had to do was inform the court and they would have issued a warrant for my arrest.
P.P.S. I've also shown him the documents you've filed in the court where you tried to have ALL communication between him and I prohibited, so stop trying to pretend that you wouldn't interfere with his and my contact. He doesn't argue with you about it because he's afraid of you and he doesn't think you'd tell him the truth anyway.